August 2024, By Judy Shevelev
(This article first appeared in the August issue of Bay Woof.)
This is the story of how one man’s relationship with his dog changed not only the way he feels about dogs, but the way in which he relates to his spouse, children and work. It is a testament to the expansiveness of love and the power our dogs have to impact us in unexpected ways.
I had dogs growing up, but they lived outdoors and they were meant to be guard dogs. My sister and I enjoyed playing with them when they were puppies, but we didn’t pay much attention to them after that.
What prompted you to get a dog now?
My wife is a big dog person and the kids were interested in getting a dog. I was ‘ok’ with it, but I had some concerns.
We adopted a Shepadoodle puppy that had been rescued. We were a bit worried about her history. However, when we watched the video of her playing with other puppies, we saw a happy and playful pup. She’s been the best thing that’s happened to us!
On our first off-leash adventure, I observed how Luna enjoyed her freedom and the natural surroundings. I could tell she was truly happy. I was also happy to be in a beautiful place. After that, she eagerly explored new places. Our bond has grown through these outings. I have time to be attentive to her and learn what she does and doesn’t like. She also observes me.
How do you know when she likes or doesn’t like something?
When she wants to go out, she gets into my face as if to say, “Come on, let’s go.” I also watch her body language.
You mentioned communication.
Our 7-year-old hugs her, but it’s more about love than a bond. I’m trying to teach him about body language and how to communicate effectively with her.
What else do you do together?
I use a cargo bike to take her to work at the university with me sometimes. We introduced it to her slowly but it didn’t take long before she became comfortable. When I’m gone on a trip, she often goes and sits in the bike cargo box, which says to me that she misses me and our rides.
What do you miss when you’re gone?
I miss the breaks we take when we’re at the office. She has taught me a lot about what’s important in life. It’s not just about working and professional achievement. Life is also about enjoying the sunshine and taking it a little more slowly. That helps me feel more balanced and less burnt out.
How have these changes impacted your relationship with your kids and wife?
Luna has also taught me to be more loving with my family. There’s simply more love in the house. When I come home, she greets me and then everyone comes together for hugs. I’ve also become more patient and generous.
Luna was timid early on. How did you help her overcome that?
At night I would carry her 2 blocks to the spot where she liked to pee because she didn’t want to pee anywhere else. We try to help her feel safe when she needs to step out of her comfort zone. Now, we think she’s happy and her happiness is contagious.
What are the elements that make for a successful co-habitation?
What does the word “love” conjure up for you?
She’s a love machine--she evokes love constantly and it spreads to all of us.
How would you define your bond with her?
It’s clear that I’m her person. I can bring her to the office and it’s fun. I know what she wants and she knows what I want. Sometimes I wish I could do my own exercise with her but I know she enjoys sniffing everything on our walks. We’re settling into a rhythm and our walks are pleasure time for her. When I go for a run for my own exercise, I can’t take her yet.
What would be your words of wisdom to someone who may be doubting the value of having a dog?
It’s definitely rewarding. You have to be willing to accommodate certain things. Luna has also had to adapt to human things, like sometimes being in my office all day. It’s only fair, I think. It’s like everything--you put in time and effort and you get so much back. It’s worth it!
What new activity would you like to try with your dog?
